What is Healing, Really?

24 Jan

And Why One Session Was Never Meant to Do It All

In the wellness world, healing is often marketed as something fast, dramatic, or instantaneous. One session. One breakthrough. One modality that changes everything.

But real healing rarely works that way.

So what is healing? How do you know if you need it? And is it all just “woo-woo” language about angels, guides, and energy fields or is there something more grounded beneath the surface?

The answer, truthfully, is both yes and no.

Healing is not about giving your power away to something external. There is nothing outside of you that holds more authority over your body, mind, or nervous system than you do. You have always had that power. Healing is the process of learning how to listen to it.

Healing Begins With Awareness, Not Fixing

One of the clearest entry points into healing is awareness particularly awareness of your internal reactions.

Have you ever noticed how a comment, a tone of voice, or a familiar family dynamic can take you from calm to overwhelmed or angry in a split second? That sudden shift is rarely about the present moment alone. More often, it’s an emotional pattern that has been stored in the body, waiting for the right conditions to be felt and acknowledged.

These patterns don’t usually reveal themselves all at once and certainly not on demand.

This is why the first session with a therapist, healer, or practitioner is rarely about “clearing everything.” Instead, it’s about establishing safety. Your body needs to know that it is not under threat, that it does not need to defend, brace, or protect itself.

The nervous system’s fight or flight response is automatic and intelligent. It exists to keep us alive. But when it becomes activated in everyday relationships, conversations, or expectations, it’s often responding to something unresolved rather than something dangerous.

Healing happens in layers, and the body reveals those layers only when it feels safe enough to do so.

When Life Changes, the Body Responds

Many people seek healing not because something is “wrong,” but because something has changed.

A relationship ends. Someone passes away. A betrayal occurs. A role shifts. An obligation becomes heavier. Or the life you expected to have simply hasn’t materialised in the way you imagined.

These experiences leave impressions in the body, whether or not we consciously label them as trauma. And if you’re navigating one of these moments, it’s important to understand this:

There is nothing wrong with you.

Your body is responding intelligently to your life experience. Healing is the process of allowing those emotional responses to surface, communicate, and move rather than suppressing them or trying to override them.

Only you can truly feel what your body is holding. A practitioner doesn’t “do” healing to you they create a space where your system can safely do what it already knows how to do.

Why One Session Is Rarely Enough

I’m often asked, “Can you fix this?”

The honest answer is no, not because healing isn’t possible, but because the body isn’t broken.

What is possible is letting go of the story, tension, or emotional charge attached to what the body is holding. That takes time, trust, and repetition.

One session, one therapist, or one modality is rarely enough to address years or even generations of stored emotional information. Healing is not a single event. It’s a relationship with yourself.

The body doesn’t ask to be fixed. It asks to be noticed.

When symptoms arise physical, emotional, or relational they are often signals saying: Pay attention. Listen. Something here matters.

Energetic Hygiene as Ongoing Care

Just as we maintain our physical health with regular check ups, dental cleanings, and movement, emotional and energetic care deserves the same consistency.

Energetic hygiene clearing, regulating, and recalibrating the system is not a luxury. It’s preventative care.

I believe energetic clearing sessions are beneficial at least two to three times a year, even for those who are self-aware or professionally trained. I include this in my own care. Healing is not about perfection; it’s about maintenance and responsiveness.

Our energetic and emotional field is layered. When emotions are not acknowledged, they don’t disappear they move inward. Over time, what begins as a subtle signal can settle into the physical body, where it finally demands attention.

This is often the point when people say, “It came out of nowhere.” In reality, the body has been communicating all along.

Healing Is a Conversation, Not a Destination

Healing asks a simple but powerful question:
Are you willing to listen to what your body has been trying to tell you?

Not to rush it. Not to bypass it. Not to force it into a timeline.

Just to listen.

When healing is approached with safety, curiosity, and patience, it becomes less about transformation and more about coming home to yourself one layer at a time.

Anna Tezzele